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Quarter-age crisis

Posted: November 3, 2010 in Quarter-age crisis
I talked to one of my students today who appears to be going through the quarter-age crisis. This form of depression is very similar to the middle-age crisis, except it happens when one is around age 25. The person is usually sad, emotional and very critical of him/herself.

It is usually brought on around this time because the person has been out of college for a few years. Some people may evaluate their life for successes and failures. While others begin to measure their successes by the yardstick of someone ele. Material success is often an issue as well as unresolved childhood issues such as abuse or sibling rivalry. I was lonely and an overachiever who always felt I should be doing more!

The best way to get over the quarter-age crisis is to get professional help. Students can usually get free help at a counseling center on campus. People who are members of a church, can often seek counseling there as well. People from a low-income bracket can often get counseling at a reduced rate by checking on-line for such services.

I went through my quarter-age crisis around age 25. I was unsatisfied living in a small town and not being as successful as I thought I should be at that age. I felt old…If I had only known then what I know now!
At the time, my counselor suggested that I become involved in some activities that would take my mind of “me.” I joined some organizations and volunteered at my daughter’s school. In the process, I made some life-long friends and developed some great relationships. Eventually, I forgot about my concerns and really begin to love the my small-town life. Before I knew it, the months turned into years, and now I love it here.
I learned a valuable lesson from that period in my life: life is what you make of it. It doesn’t matter where you live or your material wealth, happiness comes from relationships and reaching out to others. I have lived that way for the last 15 years, and my life is much better!

Have any of you suffered this crisis? If so, how did you cope with it?